When a friend is sick, we take a meal. When they experience a death in the family, we bring flowers. But what should you do when your friend suddenly discovers she is unexpectedly pregnant? Here are a few tips for supporting your friend during one of the most difficult times of her life.
Listen Without Responding
We know it’s hard, but thoughtful listening is essential. Sometimes, our friends just need someone to talk to. They need to know you are trustworthy, and they can confide in you.
Wait for your friend to ask for advice. Let her know you are there for them no matter what.
Show Extra Kindness
Regardless of how she feels about the pregnancy, she will physically feel different. Not every woman has pregnancy symptoms immediately, but most likely, she’s experiencing morning sickness, fatigue, and mood swings.
Show her some kindness by doing one of the following:
- Have her favorite meal delivered.
- Take her some flowers.
- Help her do everyday tasks, like laundry, washing, or cleaning.
- Do her grocery shopping.
- Treat her to a movie or evening out if she feels up to it.
- Go for a walk.
Encourage Her to Get Answers
Sometimes, a late period and positive pregnancy test won’t tell the whole story. Experts estimate as many as 26% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. It is possible to get a positive pregnancy test days or even weeks after a miscarriage.
How can she find out if her pregnancy is growing or if she’s had a miscarriage? With an ultrasound exam. If you get a positive result with one of our free pregnancy tests, we offer a free limited ultrasound at Women’s Care.
Ultrasound also guards her health by detecting if the pregnancy is ectopic. An ectopic pregnancy is growing outside the uterus and can be pretty dangerous.
Don’t Pressure Her
She needs to make her own decision about how to handle the pregnancy. You may have an opinion, but ultimately, it’s up to her. Pregnancy is a life-altering experience, and so is whatever choice she makes.
Encourage her to get information about all of her options. Your love and support will make a world of difference at this time.
How Can Women’s Care Help?
We offer free and confidential pregnancy services at Women’s Care. In addition to free pregnancy tests and limited ultrasounds, we can review her options. Although we do not perform or refer for abortion, we can explain the various procedures, side effects, and potential risks.
Have your friend make a free appointment and plan on joining her. We’ll be able to give her the support and care she needs. We’re here for both of you.